I am retracting my last post Friends Forever? as it is – apparently – a passive-aggressive post that one particular person believes is about them when it’s actually about someone else completely.
I had originally written the post about myself after an incident with a former friend had occurred. I had, after all, written the following at the very end of the post:
Why do I end up becoming friends with people and then fail at being a good friend and maintaining the friendship? Maybe I don’t deserve having friends?
I’m a little confused about how something that I had written that was aimed at me not being a good friend was meant to be a passive-aggressive post aimed at someone else and how it was meant to be me shifting the blame to that person when all I was doing was blaming myself.
The person who had thought the previous post was written about them has since decided to point out all the things that are wrong with me in hopes that I will go fix them. They are summarized as follows:
- I am self-centred and have to have all things about me, which means I believe the world evolves around me and everything isn’t as important as me, myself and I
- I have the need to turn everything back to me
- I apparently get upset and mad when people tell me their feelings because I am that insensitive to other people (even if I am trying to think of something appropriate to say in an appropriate manner. Because I am insensitive to other people’s feelings, that means it’s a moot point)
- I get upset when others are upset, etc.
- I am unable to acknowledge other people half the time
- I am unable to treat people as friends, just as people I’ve met with whom I am not close with
- I lack social skills and empathy towards other people
- I am too harsh and blunt when talking to people
- I am insensitive to other people’s feelings and how they will react to me being blunt and harsh and just talking to them in general and I always end up throwing it back into their faces
- I only think about myself and no one else because apparently I don’t think anyone else is as important as myself
- I victimize myself, even when I look back to see why I am the person I am, just to make people feel sorry for me
- I blame others even when it’s my own fault and try to push the blame onto them when it’s me at fault
- I’m too lazy and unwilling to get help for whatever is that’s wrong with me, regardless of financial cost
- I take things without giving things back
- I don’t pay attention to when others voice their opinions and feelings and either shut them down and go back to talking about myself or just go to looking at my phone
- I repeat what myself and other people say and go around in circles without getting to the point because apparently I am never wrong
- Apparently things need to be send to me multiple times because I supposedly do not understand what is being said the first time around
- I apparently post bitchy things on Facebook directed at people (seriously, if it were bitchy and it was aimed at a certain person, I would have let them know about either by tagging them, posting it to their wall or even sending it to them in a message) and write bitchy passive-aggressive blog posts directly aimed at other people (again, I would have indicated if it were about a certain person other than myself)
- I apparently like to try and control other people’s feelings and actions, especially if I don’t agree with them. (How is that even possible?)
- I’m ignorant of my own behaviour and how it affects people
- I am not a good friend
So basically, I am not a good person nor am I a very nice one. In fact, I am a really horrible narcissistic person.
In light of that, this will be my last blog post until I can get my shit together.
To that person who told me all of that and if you are reading this, I hope you’re happy. I really don’t know how many times I need to apologize for not being good enough and for being a horrible friend and for not being able to change overnight.
So it looks like I might be adding another person to the people I know who used to be friends with me because they don’t like me anymore as I’m too much work and not a good enough friend category.
I had messaged this ‘friend’ about a rental as last I heard, she and her boyfriend were looking at getting their own place as they were in shared accommodation. They were pretty much like “why are you telling me this? We’ve been renting our own place for months now”. I replied that I wasn’t aware of that and that I felt a little out of the loop. Their reply? I wouldn’t have felt out of the loop if I tried to keep in touch with them.
It went on with them telling me they tried really hard at the friendship and that I didn’t and wasn’t interested and was blowing them off as I barely talked to them and hardly saw them. They got annoyed when I asked if they weren’t in a good mood because we didn’t speak so often because of things popping up in our lives.
There’s another person who I used to be somewhat close to who now doesn’t want anything to do with me. I feel so down about myself. Why do I end up becoming friends with people and then fail at being a good friend and maintaining the friendship? Maybe I don’t deserve having friends?
Some great advice. Thanks for the post!
By Gloria Kopp
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My partner took over an accommodation business a few months ago. The accommodation is very bush camping with hotel all mixed in together.
We’ve received a few mixed-to-negative reviews on a booking site (not our own website). I know I shouldn’t be down over them as most of the reviews were about not having enough hot water (we have small hot water cylinders). One of the reviews stated that the ‘girl from the reception desk’ seemed put out for helping patrons amongst other things (this person complained about the hot water, the pillows being flat, the taps and the entrance not being clear enough). Said girl from this review was me.
I admit it had been raining that night and I was worried that it was going to start raining when I was showing them their room. But I was not put out by them in any way. It just makes me feel like I am not good at being cheerful and chirpy and friendly every time I have to deal with someone.
It’s a pity that people are picky.
I’m reading the last book of the Pretty Little Liars book series. I started reading the books after watching a couple of the TV show seasons as I wanted to see how different the books and the TV were (and to find out who was A and who was part of the A Team).
Originally, there was only meant to be eight books in the series but Sara Shepard, the author, decided to write eight more because of how popular the first lot of books and the TV show were and because of the fans who are dedicated to the books and show.
Books 9-12 were enjoyable to read considering there wasn’t supposed to be more books. However, I am not enjoying books 13-16 as much. I really enjoy seeing what Ali and the A team come up with in regards to getting revenge on the PLL girls, but the story line for the last four books have left me feeling like it’s been dragged out a bit and isn’t as strong as the other books. Only reasons I’m reading the last book are I hate not finishing a series that started out well and I really want to know what happens to Ali and who else has been helping her.
I am currently reading the second last book out of the Pretty Little Liars book series and it has got me thinking about when a book series should end. The Pretty Little Liars series was supposed to end at book 8 but has since gone on for another eight books. The last four books seem to be very drawn out so far. It feels like Sara Shepard has begun running out of things for the last four books (I am reading the last few books to find out who A is and how they stop A). It reminds me of the last few Sookie Stackhouse/True Blood books – those felt like Charlaine Harris was running out of story but kept going because of the TV show. Those last few books weren’t as strong as the rest of the books in the series.
So when would be a great time to finish a book series?
I feel it could be when there’s enough strong story lines to finish the series without making it drawn out with thin story lines. For example, the Pretty Little Liars series should have finished at book 8 but could have just finished at book 12 without having another four books afterwards.
But how does a writer/author of a series know when it’s a good time to finish a series? How do they know when enough is enough? I know that there are fans out there who would love to know more and have more books written about their favourite characters. Or that there’s also a TV show going on as well and they want to keep up with it, but is that really necessary? If the series is still strong, does it really need more books after the last published book?
It just seems so much easier saying a book series needs to finish as an outsider compared to a writer who has invested so much time and effort into writing, editing and publishing the books.
I just read an article about a woman who had been diagnosed with breast cancer and the only sign she had was a dimple on the underside of her boob.
Yes, you read correctly.
A dimple on your boob can be a sign of breast cancer.
It is important to check your boobs regularly (for men as well as women. Just because you are a man does not mean you are exempt from having breast cancer – you guys have breasts too). It is important to go see a doctor if anything changes in your boobs – if the skin changes around your boobs and armpits, if there are dimples anywhere, if your nipples change and/or leak or if there is any rashes.
The earlier cancer is detected the better your chances are of beating it. I am speaking on behalf of the people I know (most of whom I am related to) who have battled cancer. Some have had cancer detected early and beat it while others didn’t know until it was too late and some were diagnosed, had treatment and didn’t make it because the treatment wasn’t successful.
Please check your boobs and anywhere else for signs!
* N.B. If you want to follow the woman mentioned earlier in the post, her twitter account is ‘My Left Boob’ (https://twitter.com/OfNoSpecialType).
I have started a new Tumblr blog. I’ve had one for a few years now but I decided to close that one down and start again. This also means this WordPress.com blog is now the current longest running blog I have.
The link for my Tumblr blog is here: roseawall.tumblr.com/. I will be posting to that one from this one so don’t be surprised if you see the same content on both blogs.
Cheers to new beginnings, I guess.